Resources and Links for Surviving Infidelity or
Extramarital Affairs
Best-selling Books, Ebooks - Forums - Message Boards - Chats -
Counseling - Free Articles - Continued Contact and Affair Discovery Tools -
Forgiveness Resources - and more...
Top Infidelity
Books
Infidelity
Crisis: How to Gain Forgiveness and Respect After Your Affairby Katie Coston is a site-sponsored, reader acclaimed
ebook that helps the offending marriage partner heal the damage they caused within the relationship -
written by a former betrayed spouse, it covers the emotional side of
affair discovery. Instant access pdf - nominal download fee, gift
copies available.
Infidelity:
A Survival Guide by Don-David
Lusterman, Phd gets excellent reader reviews from both the offender and the
betrayed. According to its author, "People often find that once
infidelity is discovered and its aftereffects are behind them, their
relationship is stronger than before and subsequent infidelity is
unlikely." Paperback - includes information
on how to choose a counselor.
After
the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been
Unfaithful by Janis Spring incorporates her experience
in treating distressed couples and
explains how both the unfaithful partner and the betrayed spouse can confront
their doubts and fears about recommitting, restore trust, renew intimacy and forgive. High reader reviews -
Paperback. (not associated with this site)
Torn
Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairsby Dave
Carder and Duncan Jaenicke offers couples hope, healing, and encouragement in
the face of adultery - and provides an overall recovery process from both sexual and
non-sexual affairs. Christ centered surviving infidelity resource -
Hardcover.
How to Break Free
from the Affair by Dr. Robert Huizenga - How to
stop
the agony of the affair and get back to your old self and have the greatest
chance of saving your marriage. Instant access ebook.
Forgive
and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve by Lewis B. Smedes is a
timeless classic that's often overlooked when searching for infidelity
help. The opening fable will speak volumes to the betrayed spouse - this inexpensive
paperback is a must read.
Forgiveness
Is a Choice: A Step-By-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope (Apa
Lifetools)by Robert D Enright
says that readers must be committed and immerse themselves in the four stages of
self-discovery: uncovering anger, deciding to forgive, working on forgiveness,
and release and says that the process of forgiveness is different for each person.
A more clinical view - titled under the American Psychological
Association's new trade imprint. Hardcover.
Online
Infidelity Counseling or
Personal Advice Sites
affairrecovery.com- professional online therapy and family friendly counseling
with Rick Reynolds.
Dear Peggy
- phone
consultation and follow-up e-mail with Peggy Vaughan.
Face
Reality - 45 minutes phone coaching with Elissa Gough, infidelity
author.
HopeRekindled.com
- Christ centered healing - no charge or solicitations
.
Marriage
Resources
When
Love Dies - How to save a hopeless marriage
by Judy Bodmer is a great read for the betrayed spouse who is having trouble
forgiving - and - a great read for the offending marriage partner who thinks
"But, I just don't love my husband or wife anymore!" This is an
often overlooked but valuable source of infidelity help. Christ centered paperback.
Divorce
Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriageby Michele Weiner Davis shows how typical counseling and
communications tactics can backfire. Its author pays special
attention to issues of infidelity, depression, midlife crises, and "passion
meltdowns," showing how basic relationship skills (like understanding and
patience) can reverse even dire marital scenarios. Paperback.
how
to save your marriage alone - by Dr Ed Wheat is
serious help for troubled marriages, especially for the person whose spouse is
seeking a divorce - there are sections in the book which talk about what you
should do if your spouse has a lover and contains excerpts from "Love
Life for Every Married Couple". Its author is a Christian counselor,
medical doctor, and sex therapist. Excellent reader reviews - the
best marriage investment you'll ever make for under $4.
Save
the Marriage E-book by Lee H. Baucom,
M.Div., Th.M., Ph.D. has gotten some rave reviews for this
non-traditional and alternative approach - downloadable pdf, instant access.
Should
You Stay or Should You Go by Susie and Otto
Collins is a downloadable electronic book that helps you examine the tough question of
whether or not to stay in your present relationship. Comes
with a money-back guarantee - instant access pdf.
1000
Questions for Couples by best selling author Michael
Webb helps you discover truths about each other and build a better relationship.
If you watch TV shows such as Oprah or read relationship columns in newspapers,
chances are you've heard of him. Instant access pdf format.
Marriage
Builders Forums - offers a variety of articles and forums for separation and divorce
support as well as couples in crisis. Free and open to the
public.
Family IQ
This site offers tests and courses designed to "strengthen families one
relationship at a time."
RetrouvailleA
favored program to help couples heal and renew troubled marriages.
Popular Infidelity and Affair Support Message Boards - Forum Sites - Chat
Room Sites
survivinginfidelity.com
- surviving infidelity provides multiple message boards for both the offender and
betrayed as well as articles.
Free and open to the public.
Marriage
Builders Forums - a variety of forums for infidelity including
rooms for initial discovery and recovery. Free and open to the
public.
Healing
Heart - forums and chat for all stages
of affair recovery. Free and open to the public.
ivillage
boards - betrayed spouses/recovery support. Free and open to the
public. Also provides chat service.
ivillage
boards - ending an affair support. Free and open to the public.
Also provides chat service.
Free
Articles
911
Infidelity Emergency Kit - Free virtual library with tips on discovery
strategies, when to confront your partner - plus many articles on healing and
all aspects of infidelity and marriage.
Psychology
Today - free infidelity/affair articles, variety of topics.
survivinginfidelity.com
- free articles written by professionals and everyday people.
Variety of topics, including: surviving infidelity, choosing a therapist,
reconciliation, sex after an affair, rebuilding trust, signs of a cheat, etc.
marriagebuilders.com
- free articles on such topics as: resentment, what to do when the
lover becomes pregnant, fist steps in recovery, ending an affair, etc.
BAN
- free articles for Beyond Affairs Network with Peggy Vaughan
Affair
and Continued Contact Discovery Tools
911
Infidelity Emergency Kit - Virtual library with tips on discovery
strategies, when to confront your partner. Free.
Best Selling Software
to Catch a Cheating Spouse - Find out if your spouse is
continuing to contact the other man or other woman. Keylog pro records
computer activity- keystroke, emails, Hotmail, AOL, chat conversations,
passwords, screens viewed, etc. Downloadable, inexpensive, and
easy to install.
Premium
Spy/Recording Software - I am Big Brother is the web's
premium spy software - records anything that can be recorded on a computer
including
keystroke, pages viewed online and off, chat conversations, passwords, AOL,
Hotmail - even Yahoo. Downloadable and easy to use.
Web Detective
- for less than $30 you can gain unlimited access to a database that's used by
professional investigators for: gaining unlisted phone numbers, reverse cell
phone number search, unpublished addresses, credit reports, public records
information, criminal records, marriage and divorce records, etc.
How to Catch a Cheat
Ebook - tips and tricks to catch a cheating spouse. Endorsed by investigation
professionals and comes with a money-back guarantee. Instant
access, downloadable.
A voice-activated microcassette recordercan be easily hidden close to home phones
or in a car - $25 to $40 units available. Can be used in combination with
AT&T's
tape recorder to telephone adapter - also at amazon.com
(for
under $15) to record both ends of your home phone-line conversations.
Easy to hide, can be installed on any extra phone jack to record conversations
from other phones throughout the home.