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Downloading the ebook file
Opening the ebook file
Printing the book
I paid for the ebook but didn't get the download
I downloaded the ebook but I can't find it on my computer
When I open the ebook, the font (print) is too small to read
When I try to print the ebook, my printer stops after only a few pages
Help - some pages are missing!
Why shouldn't the betrayed spouse read this book?
Why did you use a 'pen' name?
What are your qualifications for writing this book?
May I quote from your book?
Can I order a 'hard copy'?
How can I contact you?
What is Paypal - is it 'secure'?
What if I can't afford the download fee?
Downloading and Using Adobe Acrobat Reader
To view this ebook once it's downloaded, you'll need a current version of Adobe Acrobat installed on your computer (it comes standard on most newer computers). Go to your Start Menu and view All Programs to determine whether or not this program has been installed on your computer. If you don't have this program, you can download it for free by visiting: Adobe Acrobat Reader's Free Download Page.Follow the instructions on Adobe's site to download and install Acrobat Reader. Once this program is installed, it has an extensive "Help" file if you need it. If Acrobat Reader is installed on your computer before you download the ebook, you should be able to double click on the icon for the ebook and it will automatically open in Adobe Acrobat Reader. You shouldn't have to do anything special within the Reader program to view or print the ebook file.
*Please Note: If you get an error message stating that your file is encrypted, damaged, or cannot be read or you have missing pages - you need to download and install a more recent version of Adobe Acrobat Reader (this is a free software). Please see "Downloading and using Adobe Acrobat Reader"
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Right click on the ebook link.
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From the right click menu, select Save Target As or Save File As. (Do not click Open - if you click Open, the ebook will not be saved on your computer for later viewing.)
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Choose to save the ebook file to your Desktop so that you can locate it easily once its download is complete.
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If your download fails and you realize it while you're still on our download site - attempt to re-download the file. If you've already left the download site, please email us right away from the email address you provided to Paypal during payment processing and we'll provide you with a link to repeat your download. You can use our email link to send mail or you can write directly to katie@aftertheaffair.net Please include the phrase 'failed download' in the subject line and be sure to mail us from the address you provided to Paypal.
Note: If using a Mac, please refer to your OS guide for downloads. You may need to let the file fully open in your browser window and then choose to Save from the File menu.
Opening the ebook file
If you've installed Adobe Acrobat Reader and you've saved the ebook file to your Desktop, then go to your Desktop and double click on the ebook's icon. The file should automatically open in Adobe Acrobat Reader.If you installed Adobe Acrobat Reader after you downloaded the ebook, your computer may ask you which program you'd like to use to open the file. If so, choose "Adobe Acrobat" to open the ebook.
If this doesn't work - go to your Start menu - click All Programs - click Adobe Acrobat - click Acrobat Reader. Once Acrobat Reader is open - click File (in the menu bar) - click Open (in the pull down menu) - then browse for the ebook file on your Desktop (or wherever you saved it) - then choose or highlight the file named "Infidelity Crisis: How to Gain Forgiveness and Respect After Your Affair.pdf" and click Open.
*Please Note: If you get an error message stating that your file is encrypted, damaged, or cannot be read or you have missing pages - you need to download and install a more recent version of Adobe Acrobat Reader (this is a free software). Please see "Downloading and using Adobe Acrobat Reader"
Printing the
ebook file
Once
you have the ebook open in Adobe Acrobat Reader, you can choose to Print
from the File
menu (located in the upper left corner of the menu bar or window). You
can print the entire book or one/several pages at a time. To print one
or several pages, enter a 'page range' in your Print
Dialogue Box.
*Please Note: If you get an error message stating that your file is encrypted, damaged, or cannot be read or you have missing pages - you need to download and install a more recent version of Adobe Acrobat Reader (this is a free software). Please see "Downloading and using Adobe Acrobat Reader"
I paid for the ebook but didn't get the download.
The ebook is not a self-executing program that pops-up after Paypal payment. The ebook is also NOT emailed. You must go to the download page and manually download the file and you do this via a redirect to the download page when you follow the "click here to continue" or "return to vendor" link at the end of a successful Paypal payment processing, just like the directions indicate. If you closed your Paypal window before following the link, you must write us for a new link. Write to katie@aftertheaffair.net and include the phrase "closed window" or "failed download" in the subject line of your email. To receive an email from us that contains a link, you may also need to add us to your address book or your SPAM filter may not let our email reach you. If you use POP access for mail servers such as Yahoo, this means that you will have to go to Yahoo and add us to your address book on the web (adding us inside of Outlook Express, etc., will not stop the Yahoo server from blocking our emails before they reach your Outlook Express program). Add the address katie@aftertheaffair.net BEFORE requesting a new link from us.
If
you don't find the ebook file by doing a search - and you're sure you
searched your C and D drive - then you probably didn't download
it. If you left clicked on the ebook link - or you right
clicked and then clicked Open (instead of Save
Target As) - then the ebook probably wasn't saved on your
computer. If this is the case, email
us from the email address you provided to Paypal during payment
processing and we'll provide you will an alternate link to re-download
the ebook.
I downloaded
the ebook but I can't find it on my computer
First,
do a Search in your 'Local Hard Drives' or your 'C Drive' for
the file. Search all files for the words "Infidelity
Crisis" and you should be able to find out where it's located. If
this doesn't work, search for file type "pdf".
If you find the ebook file - move it to a place that's easier to
remember and then follow the above instructions for opening the file.
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When I open the
ebook, the print is too small to read
If
the font (print) is too small to read - search your Adobe Acrobat screen
for a magnification percentage - it should be located in the
upper left corner of the tool bar (but it may be in a different location
depending on the version of Reader you're using) - and change the
magnification to 100% or more.
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When I try to
print the ebook, my printer stops
after only a few pages
The settings on this document will
allow you to print the ebook. If you're having trouble printing the
ebook, try printing only a few pages at one time instead of printing the
entire book at once - some printers will lock-up if you send them a
large print job. With the ebook open in Adobe Acrobat Reader, click on
the File
menu (upper left of the menu bar/window) - then select Print on
the pull down menu. Once your Print Dialogue Box opens, select a
range of pages to print - and enter the page numbers in the correct
box. For example, 2-10 or 2, 3, 4 etc.
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Help - some pages are missing!
The ebook should be 152 pages. If you're missing pages, either 1) you need to update your version of Adobe Acrobat Reader (this is free) or 2) your download failed . The most common cause is an older version of Adobe, not a failed download, so you should first attempt to update your version of Reader. (If the version of Reader you're using will not support the ebook, it won't read correctly no matter how many times you download it.) If the ebook does not read properly after you update your version of Reader, please email us from the email address you provided to Paypal during payment processing and we'll provide you with a link to download the ebook again.Adobe Acrobat Reader's Free Download Page.
Why shouldn't the betrayed spouse read this book?
If you're the betrayed spouse - you certainly can read the book but it will work better for your marriage if you don't read it. I'm not trying to hide anything from you and feel love for and compassion towards you. However, the book was written well after I began to heal - so I was able look at the situation with some degree of distance. Would I have been able to do this while I was in the middle of my own crisis? The honest answer is 'no'. Hearing about the trauma of affair discovery from an outside party often aids in understanding while diminishing defensiveness, and if you've not read the book - your spouse will have time to evaluate its concepts without feeling defensive. The book is pro-family, pro-marriage, pro-accountability, and pro-responsibility - it does not make excuses for or justify infidelity in any way.
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Why did you use a 'pen' name to publish this book?
I used a pen name to protect the privacy of several individuals mentioned in the book - it's simply a variation of my given/birth name.
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What are your qualifications for writing this book?
My qualifications for writing this book are experience with the subject and general research. I'm not a counselor, doctor, or clergy member. I'm Christian, a mother of three boys, small business owner, and I live in the United States. I've written for publication in the past but 'Infidelity Crisis: How to Gain Forgiveness and Respect After Your Affair' was my first 'ebook' and is unedited in its entirety. All grammatical mistakes are mine.
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'Infidelity Crisis: How to Gain Forgiveness and Respect After Your Affair' is protected by United States Copyright laws. You may quote from the ebook as long as your quote is properly cited. Anyone who violates a Copyright law is subject to prosecution.
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Can I order a hard copy of this book?
'Infidelity Crisis: How to Gain Forgiveness and Respect After Your Affair' is available only as an electronic book. You're welcomed to print a copy of your ebook file for personal use - but at such a low cost, it isn't financially feasible to print the electronic book in a more traditional format at this time.
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What is Paypal -
is it secure - and what
to do if you can't afford the download fee
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